your marriage

Strengthen

in 30 days

The 30 day strengthen your marriage challenge include four weekly marriage themes: unity, joy, peace, and purpose. The final two days are for your overall review. It is my heart's desire to build up your marriage over the next 30 days. The quality of your life is linked to the quality of your relationships. Collaborate and grow together as you strengthen the relationship with the most important person in life. 


Challenge overview:

This challenge is completely free!

The 30 day strengthen your marriage challenge include four weekly marriage themes: unity, joy, peace, and purpose. The final two days are for your overall review. It is my heart's desire to build up your marriage over the next 30 days. The quality of your life is linked to the quality of your relationships. Collaborate and grow together as you strengthen the relationship with the most important person in life. 


Challenge overview:

Purpose


Week 4

Overview

Peace

Week 3

Joy

Week 2

Unity

Week 1

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Discussion Questions:
1) What were your wedding vows and when was the last time you read them together?

2) How do you feel about the vows today?

3) Why is it important in marriage that commitment is stronger than feelings?

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some characteristics of a positive attitude? 

2. When and how do you feel your attitude can become negative? 

3. What has helped you to overcome complaining?

Discussion Questions:
1. In what areas of your life have you experienced healing?

2. What healing do you still desire? 

3. What resources, people, or counselors could be helpful?

Discussion Questions:
1. What are the qualities and skills of a good listener? 

2. What does it mean to listen with your ears, eyes, and heart? 

3. How can you emotionally enter in well when you listen?

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some poisons that often undermine marriages?

2. When have you intentionally distanced yourself from a temptation?

3. How does it feel to step back from the classic traps that damage marriages?

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some poisons that often undermine marriages? 

2. When have you intentionally distanced yourself from a temptation? 

3. How does it feel to step back from the classic traps that damage marriages?

Discussion Questions:
1. What was your religious or faith background growing up?

2. Which experiences were inspiring, and which were disappointing? 

3. What is prayer, and how do you feel about it?

Commitment over feelings

gratitude instead of grumbling

revealing comes before healing

the listening test

verbalize your expectations

don’t sample the poison

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unity

Theme: Unity

week 1

Find your wedding vows and repeat them again to each other.

Together, identify five words or phrases that you want to be true about the culture in your marriage.

Discuss how you can support each other in the healing process.

Have one person share for five minutes how they are doing while the other person listens, then switch roles.

Write down three significant expectations you have, and share them with each other.

Identify any threats to your marriage, and find a positive solution together.

Discuss how you can support each other in the healing process.

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Discussion Questions:
1. What are some areas of your life that you would like to develop? 

2. Who are some people that could help you grow? 

3. Are there any older couples whose marriage you appreciate? 

Discussion Questions:
1. What are your individual hobbies? 

2. What are some fun activities you have done together in the past? 

3. What are some fun activities that are options together now?

Discussion Questions:
1. Why is it easy to have friends who are similar to you?

2. When was the last time you gathered with friends from a different country or culture? 

3. How is it good and powerful when people from different cultures and nations unite? 

Discussion Questions:
1. Did you go on a honeymoon after your wedding? If yes, share some memories with each other. 

2. How does emotional intimacy relate to physical intimacy? 

3. What is ideal for you in terms of romance? 


Discussion Questions:
1. What are some of your skills and abilities? 

2. What have you learned in life that can be passed on to others? 

3. Are there people in your life who could benefit from your help? 

Discussion Questions:
1. Describe an ideal date. 

2. How often do you intentionally plan special time together? 

3. Why is it important to date your spouse? 


Discussion Questions:
1. How often do each of you currently exercise? 

2. Do you ever work out together? 

3. What are your favorite recreational activities? 

finding a mentor

discovering a shared hobby

multicultural friendships

the bedroom

pay it forward

keep dating

enjoy exercise 

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unity

Theme: joy

week 2

Identify any potential mentors, and schedule a time to meet with them.

Choose a shared hobby, and schedule it together on your calendar.

Take a couple from a different culture out for a meal or invite them to your home. 

Talk about your hopes for physical intimacy in your marriage. 

Identify people who you could mentor, individually or together, and take the next step.

Plan a date that would be fun for both of you, and put it on the calendar.

Choose one way to exercise together, and add it to your calendar.

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Discussion Questions:
1. Have you ever set a budget for spending? 

2. Do you have a plan to be debt free? 

3. What percentage do you give and save? 

Discussion Questions:
1. How often do you have family get-togethers? 

2. What are some success factors in your relationships with extended families? 

3. What are some areas for growth and healing with extended family? 

Discussion Questions:
1. If you are parents, what do you enjoy most about that special role? 

2. What do you appreciate about your kids? 

3. If you do not have kids now, what are your desires looking ahead? 

Discussion Questions:
1. How does resentment often build up in marriage? 

2. How would you define forgiveness? 

3. How is forgiving difficult, necessary, and freeing? 

Discussion Questions:
1. How have you decided your roles in terms of serving each other and the family? 

2. Do you list out all of the household chores? 

3. Are you both content with amounts and roles in terms of serving? 

Discussion Questions:
1. How much time do you spend per week on electronic devices, and what is ideal? 

2. What are some worthwhile activities on your phones or other screens? 

3. Do you have any set limits with phones? 

Discussion Questions:
1. How much conflict and resolution did your parents have when you were a child? 

2. What are the positive aspects to conflict? 

3. How have you grown together with conflict resolution in your marriage? 

have a plan for your finances or your finances will have you

extended family

the marriage, then the kids

forgiveness brings healing

dividing up the jobs

tame the technology

fight fair

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DAY 21

unity

Theme: peace

week 3

Establish a household budget that includes any desired financial goals.

Agree that when tension arises, the primary communication will come from the one whose family is involved. 

Agree and discuss how to prioritize the health of your marriage even above your role as parents.

Search your heart, apologize as needed, and forgive each other fully.

Write down the roles you currently have and any adjustments you want to make.

Agree to give each other full access to your phones, and set any helpful limits on use.

Discuss and agree on the guidelines you want to practice when tension arises.

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Discussion Questions:
1. What are some causes that you are passionate about? 

2. Do you set goals together related to impacting the world around you? 

3. What are some exciting opportunities for you in this season? 

Discussion Questions:
1. Who has been generous to you? 

2. What are some local and international needs that have your attention? 

3. How is being generous difficult sometimes? 

Discussion Questions:
1. In what ways have you served in the past that have been meaningful or fulfilling?

2. How can you create some margin in your life to serve together? 

3. What are some options for collaborative effort? 

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some great memories of having people come over and spend time with you? 

2. What are the costs and stressors involved with hosting? 

3. How often do you like to open up your home? 


Discussion Questions:
1. Do you like thinking about the future and what it could look like? 

2. Are there any dreams you have had for many years? 

3. What holds you back from pursuing your passion? 

Discussion Questions:
1. What is your soul? 

2. What feeds your soul? 

3. Why is your soul significant? 




Discussion Questions:
1. What countries have you visited? 

2. What nations have impacted your life? 

3. How can you learn more about the world? 

who do you want to help?

you gain the most when you give the most 

serving is fulfilling 

hospitality is about your heart, not your home

develop your dreams

your spiritual life

caring for countries 

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unity

Theme: joy

week 4

Find your wedding vows and repeat them again to each other.

Surprise someone with a gift this week.

Choose either a one-time project or an ongoing role where you both serve together.

Discuss how often you would like to have guests in your home and who to invite. 

Discuss how you can bring out the best in each other and what mountains to climb.

Decide what spiritual input is beneficial, and form a plan to grow in this area of your life.

Explore a way that you can assist someone or a benevolent cause overseas.

Discussion Questions:
What are some fun activities you have done together in the past?
\What are your individual hobbies?
What are some fun activities that are options together now?

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Discussion Questions:
What are some areas of your life that you would like to develop?
Who are some people who could help you grow?
Are there any older couples who you appreciate their marriage?

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Identify any potential mentors, and schedule a time to meet with them.

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some areas of your life that you would like to develop?

2. Who are some people that could help you grow?

3. Are there any older couples whose marriage you appreciate? 

finding a mentor

DAY 8

THEME:joy

week 2

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Choose a shared hobby, and schedule it together on your calendar.

Discussion Questions:
1. What are your individual hobbies?

2. What are some fun activities you have done together in the past?

3. What are some fun activities that are options together now?



Discovering a Shared Hobby

DAY 9

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Take a couple from a different culture out for a meal or invite them to your home. 

Discussion Questions:
1. Why is it easy to have friends who are similar to you?

2. When was the last time you gathered with friends from a different country or culture?

3. How is it good and powerful when people from different cultures and nations unite?


Multicultural Friendships

DAY 10

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Talk about your hopes for physical intimacy in your marriage. 

Discussion Questions:
1. Did you go on a honeymoon after your wedding? If yes, share some memories with each other.

2. How does emotional intimacy relate to physical intimacy?

3. What is ideal for you in terms of romance?


The Bedroom

DAY 11

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Discussion Questions:
What are some fun activities you have done together in the past?
\What are your individual hobbies?
What are some fun activities that are options together now?

day 16

Discussion Questions:
What are some areas of your life that you would like to develop?
Who are some people who could help you grow?
Are there any older couples who you appreciate their marriage?

day 15 Video

Establish a household budget that includes any desired financial goals.

Discussion Questions:
1. Have you ever set a budget for spending?

2. Do you have a plan to be debt free?

3. What percentage do you give and save?


Have a Plan for Your Finances Or Your Finances Will Have You

DAY 15

Theme:Peace

week 3

Challenge

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Agree that when tension arises, the primary communication will come from the one whose family is involved. 

Discussion Questions:
1. How often do you have family get-togethers?

2. What are some success factors in your relationships with extended families?

3. What are some areas for growth and healing with extended family?


Extended Family

DAY 16

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Agree and discuss how to prioritize the health of your marriage even above your role as parents.

Discussion Questions:
1. If you are parents, what do you enjoy most about that special role?

2. What do you appreciate about your kids?

3. If you do not have kids now, what are your desires looking ahead?


The Marriage, Then the Kids

DAY 17

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Search your heart, apologize as needed, and forgive each other fully.

Discussion Questions:
1. How does resentment often build up in marriage?

2. How would you define forgiveness?

3. How is forgiving difficult, necessary, and freeing?


Forgiveness Brings Healing

DAY 18

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Discussion Questions:
What are some fun activities you have done together in the past?
\What are your individual hobbies?
What are some fun activities that are options together now?

day 23

Discussion Questions:
What are some areas of your life that you would like to develop?
Who are some people who could help you grow?
Are there any older couples who you appreciate their marriage?

day 22 Video

Find your wedding vows and repeat them again to each other.

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some causes that you are passionate about?

2. Do you set goals together related to impacting the world around you?

3. What are some exciting opportunities for you in this season?


Who Do You Want To Help?

DAY 22

THEME:Purpose

week 4

Challenge

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Surprise someone with a gift this week.

Discussion Questions:
1. Who has been generous to you?

2. What are some local and international needs that have your attention?

3. How is being generous difficult sometimes?


You Gain the Most When You Give the Most 

DAY 23

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Choose either a one-time project or an ongoing role where you both serve together.

Discussion Questions:
1. In what ways have you served in the past that have been meaningful or fulfilling?

2. How can you create some margin in your life to serve together?

3. What are some options for collaborative effort?


Serving Is Fulfilling 

DAY 24

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Discuss how often you would like to have guests in your home and who to invite. 

Discussion Questions:
1. What are some great memories of having people come over and spend time with you?

2. What are the costs and stressors involved with hosting?

3. How often do you like to open up your home?


Hospitality Is About Your Heart, Not Your Home

DAY 25

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